“Hi, I’m a nobody.”

You’re probably like me- a man with a strong desire to be something. To be someone.

Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs puts significance as one of the highest human needs. We all long for significance, status – it’s the captain of the team that gets the glory. 

Men tend to want the car, the money, the power, the job title. We even introduce ourselves first by name, then by job role. 

When asked what I did, I once replied with “I make nice coffee, cook well and can build a mean Lego spaceship”. I knew he was asking about my job, but I enjoyed his look of mild confusion when faced with my unconventional reply. 

I have recently found amazing freedom in my status – my status as a nobody. For years I was known as Mike’s brother or Debbie’s husband. Never just Rob. I like ‘just Rob’. 

The culture in which we live tends to demand that our name and job title comes as our opener- like a two line advert inviting people to instantly define us by social class and financial bracket. “I’m John and I’m a banker. What do you do?”

Recently I did a video blog taking an honest look at masculinity. I asked what masculinity means today and what helps or hinders the masculine journey. So many responses gave similar answers and were based around the same theme – that masculinity tends to be based around our job, which many people feel is wrong and yet they comply with the status quo. 

I have many jobs and some are hard to explain – inner healing life coach, mentor, teacher, stay-at-home dad, men’s discipleship co-ordinator. But not needing to boast in them, or be defined by them is a powerful place to find myself in.

The apostle Paul puts it like this: May I never boast except in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ. (Gal 6:14)

I’ve found total freedom in classing myself as a nobody. A nobody….but not a nothing. There is a big difference. What I do is insignificant, who I am is not. Why? Because who I am is defined by who Christ says I am, not by how I introduce myself based on my job title.

The beauty of insignificance takes on a whole new level when you realise that we become someone through Him- that when our need to be defined by what we do takes a back seat, Jesus in us takes a front seat. 
 
When they saw the courage of Peter and John and realised that they were unschooled, ordinary men, they were astonished and they took note that these men had been with Jesus.’ (Acts 4:13)
 
“Hi, I’m Rob and I’m a nobody” and for me that’s enough.
 
Much love,
Rob
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