I love to snowboard. To glide effortlessly through powder snow, carving snake-like tracks behind you. Blue skies and mountains and a biting wind chill all make for an exceptional adventure.
Last year I went snowboarding for the first time in 8 years. Nervously, I strapped my board on and instantly headed down hill to catch a ski lift up to the peak. I’d like to say that I was straight into smooth movements and GoPro footage but in fact I ended up in a heap on the floor getting more and more frustrated.
After multiple wipe outs, the humbling prospect of going for a few ‘refresh lessons’ was looming. But in a passing comment, my brother-in-law said “point in the direction you want to go. But also look where you are pointing. That is where you’ll end up”.
Instantly, I moved from being a grumpy and bruised heap, to a snowboarder again. Gliding, speeding, effortlessly.
It turns out that that one line completely changed my perspective.
I was already pointing in the direction I wanted to go, but until I moved my gaze to look in the direction I wanted to go, I wouldn’t get there.
It is great to point in the direction we want to go. To set our aim and to plan for where we would like to go. Or plan for what we would like to do. But if we do not turn our eyes towards it, if we don’t focus on the end goal, if we don’t look at what it is we want, we may never get there.
I regularly use a coaching tool that allows people to focus a little more on what might be ahead.
Simply answer this question 3 times: ”wouldn’t it be good if…….”
You can go as deep or as surface as you like. But it might just help you point and focus on the right things so you don’t end up in a heap on the floor.
Strength & love.
Picture: Aforementioned brother in law, Matthew.